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The Importance of Self Healing


My latest blog on why self-healing is so important and how to find it.



Natural Healing


Our desire to heal when we are unwell is a perfectly natural one.

What we often overlook is that the most effective healing is self-healing. In fact, I would go as far as to say that it is the only true healing for our bodies, minds and emotions. And there are so many therapies, medical drugs and procedures, remedies and pills out there that we often overlook this simple fact.

So the question becomes what is the natural remedy or remedies for your situation? What will assist you in restoring your harmony and well being?

In many cases, it is fairly straightforward. For instance, if you cut your finger, well wash it and put a plaster over it until it heals itself.

In other cases, the solution is not so obvious. These more mysterious and chronic situations call for a slightly different approach. An approach which calls for investigation, questioning and above all listening to the results of that inquiry. This investigative approach can take many forms, such as blood tests, kinesiology, dream analysis and psychoanalytical tests.

Another more radical approach is to listen, deeply and in complete silence to the body. To simply listen, unimpeded by analysis, interruption or judgement, unobscured by pain suppressants. And whilst in this deep listening state allow the body to tell its’ story.

This deep listening approach to healing acknowledges our body in its’ most complete sense; the witness, memory and expression of our whole life experience as embodied spirit. This process also recognizes that our unheard story is often at the root of the energy blockages which are the source of our disharmony which manifests itself as ill-health.

So, with this rather radical approach, the story, your story, is witnessed without judgement or trying to change or to heal anything. This non-interference includes you. You are no longer judging, trying to change or heal or justifying anything etc.

To listen and to be listened to deeply, is the healing itself.

© David R. Durham
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To Heal or Not to Heal?


That is the question. Well, it is a question anyway.

It is not a question you may have pondered too much, and if you have, given the choice of experiencing healing or to not experience healing. Then I think most of us, if not all of us, would tick the ‘be healed’ box.

We humans, and I suspect many mammals, are motivated by two underlying urges: To avoid pain and to experience pleasure. And many of our decisions and actions in our lives can be tracked down to these two primal urges.

What if, we had a third view point? A view point which encompased all experience and refused to react automatically or unconsciously to it. How workable would that be? Would it be workable at all, or maybe just a little bit.

And how would the degree of pain or pleasure we are experiencing affect our decision? For instance, maybe I can resist reaching for a bottle of pain-killers when I get a mild headache. But toothache, no chance there, I’d be opening the bottle of pain-killers in a flash.

Working as a therapist, and reading some of the biographies of people who have survived extreme situations, it seems to me that different people have a remarkably different reactions to pain, and how they rate it on a scale of one to ten. There are a number of personal and cultural factors which can go some way to explaining these differences. For instance, during wartime people can and do develop a remarkable resilience to all kinds of abuse, whilst the spoiled and pampered rich-kid freaks out at the thought of a skin blemish.

So, let’s explore this third point of view, whether we consider it to be achievable, achievable only some of the time during mild experiences of pleasure or pain or just plain imaginary. What would this third point of view be like? And, would we gain or lose anything by practicing it?

The ‘I’ Consciousness:
This third point of view I have been eluding to is possible, and it is one of the primary results of many core meditation techniques. That is, becoming the observer, the unmoving witness of whatever is arising within your conscious awareness.

So what do we gain or lose by practicing this silent, accepting, meditation? A sense of calm, an awareness of what our thought processes are up to, seeing again and again just who presses our emotional buttons and how they do it and a deeper sense of who I am and what I am not.

This is all very well in the safe and protected meditation space, but what about ‘real life’ and in particular what about in the context of this article; to heal or not to heal.

Whilst the answer to the question, “To Heal or Not to Heal” may seem self-evident, there are at least two scenarios where this choice is either not possible or it is not desirable.

The first of these scenarios is where there is limited or in effect no choice. The terminal illness, the deep emotional trauma which will never fully heal or the missing limb which cannot be replaced. What then? I would suggest that any experience you have of practicing this third point of view as I have called it, would be very valuable. It would at least reduce the wasted and destructive emotional energy of denial, looking for someone or something to blame, or the pointless desire for revenge.

The second of these scenarios, is where you refuse to be dictated to by your circumstances. And, in the case of illness or injury, you refuse to be defined by your symptoms. This refusal can be particularly liberating for someone with a chronic condition of many years in duration. You know, the one everyone asks you about when they meet you. This condition is real, this is not about denying its’ existence, it is more about asserting your control and re-positioning your awareness on the bigger you.

The Bigger You:
And, there always is a bigger you.

In the silent meditation of deep contemplation, where we are encouraged to keep on letting go, keep on accepting whatever is arising in our minds and bodies. Until we let go of everything, including our desire for things to be different from how they are now, including letting go of ‘letting go’ itself. There is this you, untouched by any of this arising human experience; the good, the bad and everything in between.

In the liberating words of The Buddha Sakyamuni, the founder of Buddhism:

“There is an Unborn, Un-originated, Uncreated, Unformed. If these were not this Unborn, this Un-originated, this Uncreated, this Unformed, escape from, the world of the born, the originated, the created, the formed, would not be possible. But since there is an Unborn, Un-originated, Uncreated, Unformed, therefore is escape possible from the world of the born, the originated, the created, the formed.”

© David R. Durham
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Crucifix: Symbols & Meaning


I find the image of Christ on the cross deeply engaging. It is a haunting image of a man killed because of his beliefs about justice, love and God. And his subsequent actions that were inspired by these beliefs, actions which upset the then ruling classes of his society.

And as the years role by, it evokes in me changing feelings and thoughts:

‘A man crucified on a cross.’

‘A symbol of what our society does with enlightened men (and women).’

‘A release of the body into spirit.’

‘A victim.’

‘A noble man taking a lowly form of death to make a political point.’

‘A sacrifice of the insubstantial and impermanent, and a re-birth into the eternal.’

‘A symbol of hope in troubled times.’

‘A symbol of what one man gave up for the many.’

‘A mythical Man, imagined long before Jesus was born.’

One Symbol – Many Layers of Meaning.

© David R. Durham
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Beards: Psychology Of


Beards to many people are just facial hair. Some men grow ’em, many men especially in Western societies don’t. Some folks love ’em, whilst other’s hate ’em.

There is also a curious global difference. In the West, to a large degree, people are prejudiced against beards. Whilst from the near East through to India, beards are the norm and are valued. This is partly a religious thing, where Muslims and Sikhs especially favor beards, but then again Jesus allegedly had a beard.

My theory on why beards are not acceptable in Western societies is two-fold. Firstly, there is the first world war. Due to the horrendous living conditions in the trenches, and problems with hygiene and head lice, men became short haired and clean shaven. Prior to the first world war, beards were much more common and accepted. Secondly, good old Hollywood often portrays the ‘good guy’ as clean shaven, and only ‘bad guys’ have beards.

Why do beards generate this level of emotion I wonder? And having periodically let the old facial hair grow out, I can testify to the unexpected and odd reactions to sporting a beard. After all, it’s just hair. Isn’t it?

So, I decided to do some digging around, to rustle up some different views on this subject which is dear to many and came across this fascinating video documentary. It is about six American guys who decided to grow a beard, and as a part of this experiment they created a regular video-diary of their experiences and the reactions of other people. It’s called Winter of The Beard.

Clearly there is more to sporting the old facial whiskers that meets they eye.

And, of course, there is a website decided to said beards called All About Beards

© David R. Durham
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Pain & Healing


There is quite a complex relationship between pain and healing.

Pain is the usual motivator for our seeking healing, hence we normally define successful healing in terms of the removal of pain. Which is why pain killing drugs are so popular, they get rid of the pain, and hence they can become the benchmark for all healing scenarios.

So the acid test for healing becomes: My pain is reducing therefore this healing approach is working – Or – My pain is not reducing, therefore this healing approach is failing me.

Unfortunately, this simple black and white test does not always work out in real life. And, sometimes, all that pain killers are doing are temporarily reducing the pain, or they are acting as a mask and hiding the symptoms.

So what, you might say, if the symptoms are hidden and the pain is reduced or gone, isn’t that a good thing?

Maybe, maybe not.

People can live for years with repressed symptoms. Their drug prescription changes periodically to keep the mask in place. The patient feels better, the doctor looks like a professional doing his job (as we define it) and the drug company get to make more profits. If we ignore the collateral damage of long term drug use, its a true win-win situation you could argue.

But, is this healing?

What if we changed our definition of healing from the removal of pain, to the removal of the causes of symptoms? Would this change our outlook?

Healing may then become an altogether more complex scenario. For in this approach, our guiding compass, the reduction of pain, is not necessarily very helpful. As sometimes, when tackled head-on, symptoms can become worse before they get better. Or sometimes, one symptom will disappear only to be swiftly replaced by a different one.

This presents the patient with quite a dilemma. Do they trust the course they are on is correct, or do they try a different tack?

As you may have guessed, there’s no simple answer to this dilemma. To some extent, you have to trust the practitioner you’re working with, and they will be able to guide you as to how well the process is going, how you are making progress and whether to carry on or not. Jumping from practitioner to practitioner in short succession is probably not the best answer as it only confuses the matter more.

Whilst it is only normal to want to be rid of pain, healing symptoms takes as long as it takes, and your problem (which is often completely unique to you) may well not have a simple short-term solution. If you’ve had migraines on and off for 20 years, is it realistic or helpful to expect them to be ‘cured’ in one or two therapy sessions?

As a broad guideline, when nothing is changing, then look for a different solution. And if your symptoms get dramatically worse, then you may need the support of multiple healing approaches. This is when having the concept of complimentary therapies is a useful one to have, as opposed to the rather limiting idea of alternative therapies.

Having said all of that, and now looking on the bright side, symptoms’ causes do very regularly get healed.

Ironically, it is not usually the practitioner that does the healing, its the body/mind itself which accomplishes this task. The practitioner is simply a facilitator of this magical healing process.

© David R. Durham

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